About Change Anything
I’ve spent an extraordinary amount of my life looking at what people are doing.
What they choose. For what reason they don’t choose what they say they want. For what reason they can have every tool, every awareness, every possible resource available to them and still be living with things they don’t actually want.
And what they get out of making themselves SO wrong for all of it.
But not just them.
Me.
If you’re anything like me, you’ve spent years trying to fix yourself into something different. Better.
Books. Classes. Therapy. Consciousness. Healing. Every modality under the sun.
You’ve done the work. You’ve probably helped a whole lot of other people do theirs.
And you KNOW things.
By now, you probably have a pretty good idea of “why” you do what you do. What your patterns on.
You can practically watch yourself choosing the same damn thing again while you’re choosing it.
😆
And somehow, with everything you know, you’re still living with things you don’t actually want.
So what the hell is going on?
We're judging instead of choosing.
Full stop.
What if we stopped making ourselves wrong for absolutely everything?
Our feelings. Our reactions. Our choices. The things we’re tolerating. The things we’re avoiding. Even the things we know we could change and haven’t.
What if we BE with all of it, without needing to fix ourselves first?
What would be available to choose then?
We have so much more choice than we think.
And I want to explore what it takes to live that fully.
Who is Change Anything for?
Well, it's for you if you spent the last 30 years trying to get happy.
If you're the glue at work and at home, and your tack is wearing thin.
If you know “more” is your middle name, but you keep beating yourself up about it.
If you run clearings, go to classes, buy self-help books and staring at that pile isn't making your next choice materialize.
If you're stuck in anything: a job, a relationship, a moment, a body, and can't seem to “self-help” your way out of it.
If you second guess yourself instead of ask an actual question.
If you doubt instead of believe.
If you're tired to death of the way you are, and just want to be the way you BE.
Maybe you’re 38. Maybe you’re 62. Maybe you’re looking at your life thinking, “Jesus. Am I really going to reinvent myself AGAIN?”
Yep. Maybe.
I'm on my 5376th time.
You don’t have to have this living and creation thing figured out.
All you need now is the willingness to get present and look at what is.
And choose what's next.
Hi, I’m Christel.
I’m an executive coach, former consciousness facilitator, and someone who’s spent most of her life questioning what we’re told is possible.
I was raised in a cult. Then Christianity. Then no religion. Then consciousness. And now my own extrapolated version of living connected, present, and aware.
I’ve moved countries repeatedly, traveled the world, changed careers five-plus times, married three times, built businesses, and started my life over more times than I can count.
I built a $1.4M business and spun it down. I’ve had brick-and-mortar businesses, worked in landscaping, and now I’m working two part-time jobs while building again.
For more than a decade, I worked as a consciousness facilitator, helping 773 customers and clients question their beliefs, recognize their patterns, and change their lives.
And somewhere along the way, I got really fucking good at using all those tools to stay in a life and relationship I didn’t actually want.
At 51, I’m rebuilding again.
I left my marriage, stepped away from the facilitation career I’d built, and started looking for the vein of gold running underneath all my life choices.
The thread.
And here’s something I keep discovering.
The more I base a choice on needing to be RIGHT, the more trapped I become.
What’s moral. What’s responsible. What a good woman does. What people will think. What I’ve already invested. What I’m supposed to do at this age.
What if I remove the basis?
What if I just get present with what I’m actually aware of and what I’d like to choose?
Is that even allowed?
What you’ll find here
I write about three things.
1. Choice & Agency
You always have a choice. And you’re allowed to make it.
Why do we say we don’t have a choice when we always do?
Is it possible that if we actually acknowledged them, we’d have to choose? 👀
What are we choosing when we choose nothing?
Why do we keep waiting for certainty? Permission? Someone else to change? Someone else to be okay with what we want?
And what happens when we stop doing that?
2. Consciousness & Allowance
Consciousness includes everything. Even you. And aggressive allowance is the fastest pathway to change.
We make ourselves wrong for our feelings. Our reactions. Our desires. Our choices. Our lack of choices.
And then we make ourselves wrong for making ourselves wrong. 😆
What if we could actually stop arguing with what’s already true?
What if we could be present with our anger, fear, doubt, disappointment, and all the things we’re currently trying to fix or get rid of?
Without deciding any of it means something terrible about us?
3. Reinvention
Reinvention is a constant, infinite space.
I’ve reinvented myself more times than I can count.
And here I am doing it again.
Rebuilding income, my business, my life.
What does it actually take to start again?
What has to change internally before the outside can change?
How do you create the income, the relationships, the work, the life you actually want?
And why the hell do we keep deciding we’re too old, too late, too broke, too whatever to choose something different?
Because there isn’t some magical finish line where we finally get everything right and can stop choosing.
There’s always more.
And wanting more is our nature, not a flaw.
What you’ll get
I'm targeting one deep-dive essay every week, with shorter notes, lives, and conversations in between.
I’ll be writing about the choices I’m making, the things I’m noticing, the patterns I’ve watched in myself and hundreds of other people, and the questions that keep opening doors.
Marriage. Money. Aging. Work. Relationships. Consciousness. Religion. Health.
And the actual, practical business of changing and creating them.
I’m interested in what happens when we stop needing a right answer.
When we stop fighting ourselves.
When we stop making everything we choose evidence that something is wrong with us.
Because awareness is wonderful.
But what are you going to choose?
Come question everything with me.
This will be a two-way conversation.
You'll tell me what you're wrestling with. What you're pushing back on from thoughts in my head. What you need more on.
And I'll fill your world with stuff like:
What have you been calling inevitable that you’re starting to wonder about?
What choices can you see but haven’t been willing to make?
What are you unwilling to receive, be, or experience that might be keeping those choices out of reach?
And what are you willing to be, know, notice, receive, and choose?
If you’ve consumed every tool and still find yourself living with things you don’t actually want, come hang out.
Let’s find out what becomes possible when we stop making ourselves wrong and just choose. 🥰
